When I used to hear working moms talk about the judgment they felt,
the criticism they received for it, and the guilt they felt, I remember thinking that was SOOO the 80's #soapbox of the past. This is the 21st century for crying out loud. We must be past all of that right? And yet, here I am, finding myself as a working #sahm feeling the judgment from others, the guilt of being a working mom (sometimes it's suffocating), and criticism for the outlet which my passion has led me to. And it's real. It's so undeniably real. How can this be? How can a woman, who's helping to provide for her family, while caring for her children, be criticized and judged for the same thing that society is so accepting of in a father? God bless Sean for always seeing me as an equal in all things, whether I was working or not. He has and always will be my number one supporter. Can a woman not have passion as a mother and have a professional vocation? Does it make her less of a mother if she does? Does it make her pursuits greedy if she is successful? Boastful? What if her pursuit is network marketing over a more traditional job? Does that make her selfish? Less worthy of success? What about negligent, or out of balance? Does it imply that she is putting her marriage and family second if she pursues both? After 8 months of learning to harmonize and balance being a mother AND a working mom, I have learned that nothing is black and white, you can't have it all, AND that things aren't always how they appear. As a society, I can see that we can do better. As women, let us embrace each other, regardless of the path we take. I have done a lot of reckoning with the woman I was before all of this, and I'm grateful for the experiences God has brought into my life to see another side. It has given me more empathy for others than anything I've ever experienced in my life. When we as a human race learn to truly LOVE one another, we will STOP criticizing each other, and BEGIN embracing each other for the bravery it takes to pursue what we truly believe in WITHOUT judgement...and that's when we will have become progressive.
This is my prayer. Amen.