"experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted." -randy pausch

Wednesday, January 20, 2010


the first disagreement sean and i had
after getting married was about dishes and making the bed.
i think it started about 11:30pm and ended around 2am.
sean vowed never to bring anything up with me when i'm tried ever again.
so in my tired state i was bugged that he would put his dishes in the sink and let them sit there all day, with the oatmeal cement sticking itself to the side of the mug.
it wasn't that the dishes were sitting there all day.
sometimes you're busy and dishes have to sit.
it was that it took 5 times as long to clean them at the end of the day when everything was REALLY caked on from sitting all day.
my solution had always been to just fill the cup, plate, etc with water to soak so clean up was a snap.
he was bugged that the bed was never made.
my argument was that i always made the bed...right before we got in it!
i thought it was silly to use valuable "getting ready time" in the morning to make the bed.
so we made a compromise.
he would soak his dishes, and i would make the bed.
last night i was reminded of our first late night disagreement.
in a good way.
the scout master was home for all of 12 minutes between internship and scouts.
tuesdays are busy in our home.
in those 12 minutes he ate 1 1/2 pieces of pizza (took another 2 pieces with him to scouts), organized some scout materials, hugged the pork loin and i, and was out the door.
the pork loin cried at the door.
it was sad.
after the hustle and bustle of his departure i saw a beautiful thing.
my sink was full of sean's dishes from work, SOAKING.
"i love you" was what i saw in my sink.
good thing i made the bed today;-)


Sue said...

Awwwwww...so cute.


PS. Love is definitely best shown in those small, everyday ways.

Leslie said...

Mike and I definitely had to train each other when it came to our pet peeves. Its funny how after a while it becomes habit. Its a rewarding feeling.

beck said...

Love the compromise! FYI I've started taking the Flylady challenge to declutter my life and it starts with a clean sink. I was up last night cleaning it. She suggests that a clean sparkling sink represents hope and a decluttered life. She starts there and helps women to enjoy housekeeping in a more positive light and to declutter and bring order to our daily lives. We will see how it goes. She even suggests keeping a bin under your sink (with soapy water for your sake) for dirty dishes if you can't wash them immediately so they don't dirty your sink. flylady.net

Amy said...

that is too cute. I love how just a simple act can be more powerful than words in expressing love.

Jess said...

It's so nice to have those visible signs of love, whether it's soaking dishes or picked up socks, it's all about the love

Fiauna said...

Awww. Soaking dishes, isn't that sweet. No, really. I totally get that.

Rebekah said...

That is the cutest thing I've ever heard! Ha I have the same dishes/sink paranoia... By the way, I heard Sean did great at mutual!

Buckeye Nut said...

Gotta love the little things they do for us that they know will make us smile even if noone else undertands :)

Katie said...

Love it.

Emmy said...

That is sweet. And I understand about busy Tuesday's. Eric is the 11-year old scout leader.. so we don't see he much on Tuesday's either.

And I still don't ever make the bed.. woops.