"experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted." -randy pausch

Monday, April 26, 2010


i told my cousin audrey not to have sex until she was married.
she's 10.
max was laying on the floor looking extra cute with her darling bow, little pink dress, and bright blue eyes flashing up at us.
i've been watching this show on mtv about teenagers that get pregnant and are thrown into taking care of babies in high school.
audrey watches the show too.
we talked about the twins episode.
so we sat there looking at max in all of her cute glory,
and i just blurt out,
"don't have sex until you're married!"
they aren't so cute at 1am and 3am and 5am,
or whatever a.m. they chose to awake.
well max is, but it still doesn't make those times easy to be up at.
she shyly giggled and said, "ok."
thank heavens.
how many times do you think she'll have to hear that to wait?
turns out it was really good advice b/c i'm extra grumpy this morning.
not because max was up.
but b/c max slept 8 hrs straight.
good thing brennan was up screaming from midnight to 3am.
then max woke up to eat at 3am and was so stuffed up from the cold we all have that she didn't go back to bed until 4am.
sean is an awesome nose sucker.
he got her all fixed up.
and then everyone was up at 7:45am again.
i'm grumpy and exhausted.
i wouldn't change my life for one minute.
but thank goodness i didn't start this life at 16.
or by myself at any age.
b/c i couldn't do it at any age by myself.
i've got to give it up to the single moms out there.
b/c starting it at 25 with an amazing husband is hard enough.
and it's a lot more fun to take care of them when you are ready to enjoy them.
so 25, 35, 45, whenever.
just not 15.
b/c every girl on that show always has a final interview.
and what do they ALL say?
i wasn't ready for sex.
i wish i would have waited.
it wasn't worth it.
hindsight's 20/20.
i know you can have sex and not get pregnant.
and that lots of people have sex before they're married.
and they're great people.
amazing people!
maybe you!
to each is their own:-)
this is just what i told audrey as we were looking at max yesterday.
i want audrey to be able to soak up her very own max someday.
in all her glory.
b/c i feel so spoiled to get to soak up my max today.
that's all;-)


Sue said...

I think you gave her some very good advice. And, sadly (these days), ten is not too young to hear it.


Jess said...

It's good advice- and it's nice coming from someone who isn't mom. you're so much cooler than 'mom' to Audrey, just like some nice person will tell your Max the same thing- and it will be from someone who is cooler than you , cause you're 'mom'. I don't understand the reason for it, I just know that it is.

Emmy said...

I have heard about that show but never seen it.. I am glad to know that they all say they wish they would have waited at the end... because yeah, the day to day stuff really truly can be very hard and really suck. It is so worth it, but not when you are 15 or 16 and supposed to be having fun and just enjoying life.

Snarky Belle said...

Loving you.

Amy said...

Good for you!

ElizabethJane said...

Not only the physical drain of early motherhood, but the intense emotional drain of giving yourself, all of yourself, to another human being. Young girls don't understand this and don't realize that it is just a physical relationship but an emotional and spiritual one as well.

ElizabethJane said...

Sex is just sex unless your married.......